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It never quite made sense to me because she had friends before she got married, in childhood and college, and in her early twenties she shared a two-bedroom apartment in West Covina, California, with three other women who were also teachers. They became a foursome; everyone at school knew their group. ÒI think they noticed us because we were young, attractive, and single,Ó my mom says.
Kayleen Schaefer is a journalist and author of the bestselling Kindle Single memoir Fade Out. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, The New Yorker, Vogue, and many other publications. She currently lives in New York City, and Text Me When You Get Home is her first book. Text Me When You Get Home is a validation that has never existed before. A thoughtful, heart-soaring, deeply reported look at how women are taking a stand for their friendships and not letting go. Oh I'm sure all the women who lived together for years during the 1950s were JUST friends.
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Some women, though, have always moved through the world together. In the mid-twentieth century, the professional class focused on their immediate families, but poorer, working-class women, who were white and non-white, continued to depend on larger networks, including relatives and female friends. They leaned on each other for help with childcare and finding jobs, and for companionship needs not met by sexual relationships. "People who were living from hand to mouth totally needed those additional relationships," Smith says. No, not really, although we hear allllll about Schaefer's sorority days, her boyfriend, and her friends she watches Scandal with.
Somehow, though, I just didn't find this book as relevatory/unusual as it was billed. Most of the sources in this book are also about white women, which was glaringly obvious. This was a glaring oversight and a little unfortunate. More historical context about non-white female communities would have been a nice addition. More than anything, I found myself remembering two close friends I don’t see anymore.
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I think the narrator suffers the most as she must read what is written and try to make it sound different from the masturbatory text of the author. Having listened to her other book "but you're still so young" I don't know why I expected anything different here. Alix Chamberlain is a woman who gets what she wants and has made a living, with her confidence-driven brand, showing other women how to do the same. So she is shocked when her babysitter, Emira Tucker, is confronted while watching the Chamberlains' toddler one night, walking the aisles of their local high-end supermarket.
Gives listeners a little more insight into the behind-the-scenes of their favorite advice column. Meredith divides it into 12 delicious chapters, each focusing on an issue with which audiences are struggling, including topics such as how to cope with dating fatigue and infidelity, work romances and tired marriages, true love and true loss. Only so many times you can compare modern women to the characters from 80's sitcoms.
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So, I gained some new insights and found her argument convincing. A personal and sociological examination—and ultimately a celebration—of the evolution of female friendship in pop culture and modern society. Where things got a little problematic for me was the author’s assumption that the pop culture portrayal of women as mean and competitive is true, as opposed to a construct created to sell TV shows and movies. “There’s a sense, among women at least, that achievement is a zero-sum game, and that we’re supposed to be cutthroat at all times.” If this is true, then it’s a world I don’t live in, fortunately. As a result, much of the book felt like a defense – rather than a celebration – of female friendships.
It is WILD to me that Schaefer did not realize this until she started to work. Granted, we all realize things at different paces but the book come off so condescending as if women haven't been relying on each other for emotional support for centuries. There are some interesting bits, like even the comparison between the post-war generation of stay at home moms and 2nd wave feminism, or what friendship might have meant in the Middle Ages. The conclusion hints at a more engaging read, since somehow between the Middle Ages and the Edwardian/Victorian period women were suddenly expected to have close, abiding friendships with other women. Or how 21st century women might be renegotiating things like domestic partnerships, child rearing, and retirement. But no, instead we get recaps of 90s tv shows, shallow personal anecdotes, and endless man on the street quotes that add up to essentially nothing.
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In England in the nineteenth century, women were expected to keep their friends close, both before and after they married... Healthy female friendship has not been kept from our eyes. I have no doubt you could find plenty more images like these to bolster this statement.
But her new career made it even harder for her to make friends with her neighbors. Her first book, The One in the Middle Is the Green Kangaroo, was published in 1969, and Blume went on to write many beloved children's and young adult books, including Blubber, Deenie, and Are You There, God? My female friends mean so much to me and I hope there will continue to be more discussion about and appreciation of the importance of friendship. Schaefer has insight on the progression from the movie Heathers to today’s Mean Girls, and whether that’s an accurate portrayal. But I wish Schaefer would have acknowledged that adult women don’t always stay friends, and the end of that friendship isn’t always pretty. She paints a summarily rosy perspective, which I think is only one side of the story.
Edited by critically acclaimed, best-selling author Alice Sebold, the stories in this year's collection serve as a provacative literary "antenna for what is going on in the world" . Secondly, I don't even know what this is, but it's long and full of sex and warm moments so please enjoy. I hope you're all taking care of yourselves, and whoever you are, I hope this helps to ease your mind, if only for a little while. To read on e-ink devices like Kobo eReaders, you'll need to download a file and transfer it to your device. Follow the detailed Help Center instructions to transfer the files to supported eReaders. You can listen to audiobooks purchased on Google Play using your computer's web browser.
It was a charming book that related the importance of female friendships and made me think of my own friendships. There is nothing mind-blowing here though, but the audiobook was a nice listen. I wanted to like this book, but I was hoping for something well-researched and thoughtful. I returned after the second chapter, which focused on, of all things, the movie Beaches. I would not have thought this movie worthy of more than a paragraph, but she spends a CHAPTER on it, recounting the plot, how it differs from the book, and actor/actress reminiscences of its making.
Some say when they were younger and married that they just simply didn't have time and had to focus on their marriage. Yes, however if someone is a priority you will make time for them. This book is all about the female friendship and how it's evolved over time. Honestly, I think the biggest issue I had with this book is that it's simply not relate-able to me in the least.
It’s repetitive and full of tedious plot summaries of various movies and TV shows, along with overly specific details about what the author and her friends do together. I feel it's appropriate to say that I texted one of my friends while reading, "I am legit holding back tears reading this book at work because a girl's best friend died and I can't process the idea of you being dead". There are so many more of her and I am so incredibly lucky to have all of these women in my life who support me and love me and get me and let me tell them in so many ways, "Let's keep talking". Would really recommend to anyone who has ever loved a lady friend. Described my wonderful, brilliant close friendships. So positive and glowing it will leave you feeling great, empowered and ready to celebrate all the awesome women in your life.
"It just didn't turn out to be, and I can't tell you how lonely I was without my female friendships," Blume says. Schaefer makes the argument that women realize pretty late in the game how important other women are in each others lives. I personally have 3 close friends that I consider my people and lowkey wondering how I can tell one of them that we should buy houses within a few blocks of each other.
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